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Tweets, texts, snaps, emojis and emails, know-how has made it simpler to speak than ever.
But it has additionally made it more durable.
Should I name? Should I textual content? Twitter DM? Maybe only a Facebook Message.
When ought to a pair turn out to be “Facebook official” and what ought to depart off Facebook and hold personal?
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Navigating communication in a relationship is tough sufficient, however throw within the fixed chirping and chatter of at present’s linked society and it may be rife with pitfalls, potholes, improper turns and lifeless ends. But know-how also can assist us talk extra successfully, sustain relationships over lengthy distances and discover new relationships primarily based on shared pursuits, stated Janie Harden Fritz, a professor of communication and rhetorical research at Duquesne University.
“Some people would be delighted to get text: ‘Love you’ or ‘Can’t wait to see you,’” Fritz stated. “Others would like, ‘I want to hear that face-to-face. It’s not quite the same.’”
Fritz herself shouldn’t be technologically savvy. She acquired her first cellphone in 2007. She’s on LinkedIn however not energetic on different social media. She talks about Plato and Aristotle like they’re outdated buddies. But as communication has developed, so have her research and programs.
Fritz stated know-how has by no means changed face-to-face communication. It has added to it. The telegraph and phone added methods we may talk. So did the web, e mail, textual content messages and social media.
“I teach about human relationships, no matter what the modality,” Fritz stated. “The telephone, the cellphone, the internet, it’s how do people find meaning in their life. Relationships give us meaning.”
Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Fritz gave a couple of recommendations on the right way to higher talk on this digital age.
• Develop guidelines together with your associate. Figure out when a name is anticipated versus a textual content and what must be stated face-to-face. Fritz stated these guidelines take time to develop and new would possibly battle.
• Keep the personal issues personal. Use widespread sense when deciding what to submit for the world to see. Fritz stated we have been a bit cavalier with our sharing, even growing a “post sharing syndrome” phenomena the place we remorse what we have shared moments after posting it, however she hopes as we mature with the know-how, we would turn out to be a bit extra considerate and cautious about what we share.
• Know the individual’s love language. Love languages are the methods folks desire to point out and obtain affection whether or not by actions, contact, phrases or different methods. Fritz stated when you be taught an individual’s love language, you should utilize know-how to specific it, simply “make it count.”
• Focus on the individual. Whether you are face-to-face or texting whereas miles aside, give the folks you care about your uninterrupted consideration. If you are out on a date, put the cellphones away in order that nobody else can intrude on that second, Fritz stated.
“Make that person the only person in your world at that moment,” Fritz stated. “Let that person know that you care.”