Everyone has a basic love story that shapes their notion of romance: You know, like Romeo and Juliet, Jack and Rose, Oprah and Stedman, Selena and Justin, Elio and Oliver, Beyonce and Jay-Z, Megan and Harry. But, for me, it’s at all times been Ina and Jeffrey.

She met him when she was 15, whereas visiting her brother at Dartmouth, and married him at 20. That’s over 50 years collectively, and so they’re nonetheless this in love:

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Jeffrey Garten kissing Ina Garten

If you have ever watched Barefoot Contessa on the Food Network, you may know what I am speaking about. When they’re away from one another for even just a bit whereas, they greet one another like they have not seen one another for years. Since they do not at all times dwell in the identical place through the week — Jeffrey works as Dean Emeritus on the Yale School of Management and Ina works on her books in East Hampton — they at all times name one another to verify in. They even go away one another little love notes.

And as we realized by asking her for her love recommendation, after they are collectively, he wakes her up with espresso and the newspaper. She cooks for him simply to carry a smile to his face.

If that’s not love, I don’t know what’s.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, listed here are Ina Garten’s ideas for a cheerful, enduring relationship:

1. You’ll simply know while you discover “the one.”

“I met Jeffrey when I was 15, and I have to say, I just knew he was the one,” she advised TODAY Food. “He’s kind, he’s smart, he’s funny, and he takes very good care of me. It’s wonderful.”

2. Don’t demand consideration. Give it.

“If you take care of somebody and don’t worry about what they’re gonna take care of you, they will,” she stated. “Rather than demanding attention, by giving attention, you get attention back. It’s actually simpler than you think.”

three. Cooking is an incredible method to categorical love for somebody.

“I think the best way you can express love by cooking for someone is figure out what they like — not what you like, what they like — and make it for them. And they’ll feel really good.”

four. All of your dishes ought to be your accomplice’s favourite.

“Pretty hard to think of what favorite dish I make [for him],” stated Ina. “I think every time I test a new recipe and I give it to him and he goes, ‘This is the best thing I ever had.’ So I can say all of them are!”